I remember back in 1992 when Bill Clinton promised to lift the ban on gays in the military (as if there had never been gays in the military before). Then Clinton got into office and what we got was "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" an absolute mockery of a policy. In 2008, Obama said he would remove the ban on gays in the military (again, as if there are no gays currently in the service), but it looks like that won't be happening soon either.
Quite frankly, as a veteran and a conservative, I could give a toss. Gays are in the military now and I hate to tell the world this, they are often known or at least strongly suspected to be gay and it doesn't matter. They do their job, they have the respect of the compatriots and they will continue to serve.
Get over it.